I have recently listened to Dr. Wayne Dyer video in which he talks about 10 secrets for inner peace and success. I found it super helpful and thought to summarize it for anyone that might find it useful. I really like all 10 principles but could see that different principles could resonate differently with different people. If you are being open-minded, and give some thought to each of them, I believe you can only benefit. Here are the principles in my interpretation:
1. Have a mind that is open to anything but attached to nothing
Open your mind to new ideas, different views, think out of the box, give new thoughts a chance. Approaching life with a close mind and doubts will rarely be helpful and take you to where you want to be. Open your mind and make a shift on how you view yourself. Don’t make your happiness depend on any attachment, any place, or any person. Love others and allow them to be who they are, and not what you think they should be. This is an open mind and absence of attachment.
2. Don’t die with your music still in you
Good Quote: “There is just one life for each of us: our own”
Listen to your heart, express the music you hear. Find your purpose and what you need to do to complete yourself. Follow your instincts and your passion, vs. following the life by the prescribed rules and expectations from others. Don’t let your fears stop you from following your dreams, and music within. Don’t fear failure, as actually nothing is a failure. Everything is just a result or outcome, where you learn something, and move on.
3. You can’t give away what you don’t have
Based on the law of the universe, you attract what you have to give away. Change your thoughts to love, joy, peace, and those things you will attract to your life. Feelings like guilt, hate, judgment will not bring you anything good. Change those thoughts and free yourself. Free yourself of taking things personally, find a purpose, and feel purposeful helping and serving others. Love and respect yourself, as only then you can also love and respect others.
4. Embrace silence
Many of us are afraid of silence or being alone, but there is so much value in silence, peace, and reconnecting with yourself. Make time for silence, practice meditation, sit quietly. You will feel better, calmer, more positive, and you will project good energy to others around you too. Spend time in nature, connect with it.
5. Give up your personal history
Don’t be a victim of your personal history, and don’t excuse today by past challenges. The past is over. Understand it, accept it, embrace it, and grow from those experiences and transform them.
Embrace everything and everyone from your past, as without them you wouldn’t be who you are today. But accept it as the past, and what you have is “Now”. Enjoy the present moment, don’t ruin it by “should have”, “could have” thoughts. Acknowledge your present and practice living in the moment.
6. You can’t solve the problem with the same mind that created it
If you constantly doing the same things, face the same problems with the same thoughts, you will perpetually be in the same situation. Start changing your thoughts, start changing the angle from you look at the things, change the perspective. Our changed thoughts will change our relationships.
There 3 levels of conscience: ego, group, and mystical.
• Ego conscience: separateness from everyone, when you constantly comparing yourself and competing with others. Here, our inner peace is impossible.
• Group conscience: you pass yourself, but now you imitate a group similar to you. You are acting and behaving as a group. For example, when the family is insisting you love who they love and hate those they hate, when what group dictates becomes who you are.
• Mystical conscience: when you are connected to all, feeling we are all one. When you feel you belong to a human race, you are not separate from others.
7. There are no justified resentments
When we blame someone else, we can’t solve our problems. Resentments give us a reason to return to the old self. But when we take responsibility, then we can have a chance to resolve the situation. Don’t look for reasons to be offended, forget the need to be right, it is better for you to be at peace. When you are offended, you mean you are also judgmental, but then you define yourself as such and not others. If you don’t judge and free yourself from the negative energy of resenting, ultimately you will be more at peace. Be part of the solution, be love. Forgiveness is the key and most healing thing you can do for yourself.
8. Treat yourself as if you already are what you would like to be
Get inspired and wake those dormant forces to make your desires come true. Place your thoughts on what it is you want to become. Start picturing yourself like that. Have no doubts and start acting like that’s reality. Paths will open up. Take charge of your own destiny.
9. Treasure your divinity
Ego leads you to believe there are enemies and that you are separate from anything that is missing in your life. It keeps you constantly in fear. In fact, we are all universal spirit, eternally connected to ourselves.
10. Wisdom is avoiding all thoughts that weaken you
Empower yourself with thoughts of love, and respect, and avoid thoughts of fear, anger, shame, guilt, and apathy. Love and respect will strengthen you, while fear, anger shame will weaken you.